Deborah Allen ~ Fiercely Living Blog


“The hard way builds solidly a foundation of confidence that cannot be swept away”
— Colonel Sanders

Deep in thought – I remember many times traveling back and forth from Chicago to St Louis, every summer to visit my grandmother. Oh’ how I loved me some “Grandma.” Although stern, she had a heart of gold. She always made sure we learned something about the bible every summer. She was faithfully taking my siblings and I to church- what seemed like all the time. My interest unlike most children, was on the older adults that were engaged in scriptures, talking in unknown languages and running around the church. These are those I wanted to be like. 

As I grew older and my family transitioned to St Louis for good. I started running the street, making bad decision, and started having children, it was through the choices I was making I found myself being rejected. Somehow this thing called church kept drawing me back into its arms. When I finally got tired of it all. I finally stayed; in church, I mean.  I was finding myself, and my purpose all while still being rejected; this time in the church house by family and those that called themselves saints. Nonetheless, I didn’t let that stop me, I was persistent, I kept going. I cried behind doors, pillow getting softer by tears. Through this process, I grew thick skin and became unstoppable. 

Very few of my siblings, family and church family supported me. At times, I was left solo. I was talked about, left behind, black balled, left out, had my character assassinated and left spiritual dead; by those that was supposed to love me. I still didn’t let that stop me. In fact, their rejection ignited my fire even the more. 

Today, I stand relevant and on the shoulders of powerful men and women that dared to give me a chance, pushed me to greater, never gave up on me and looked beyond my frailty and femininity and saw my drive and my purpose. So today, I say to you my brothers and sisters, just like me, you can make it; and you are making it! 

Just like Colonel Sanders of Kentucky Fried Chicken being rejected over 1,009 times before success came his way. You may have been rejected, but stay the course, stay relentless and remain relevant!


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